My 13 Year Old Likes Chores and Likes To Be Disciplined!! And She Doesn't Even Know It!!!

My 13 year old, Amber Michelle, likes chores and likes to be disciplined; and she doesn't even know it!!

Being a single parent for me means that my daughter would spend every other weekend at her father's. I have to hear statements from her during the week, such as, "I hate it here, I can't wait to go to my Dad's", "Why do I have to do chores on a day off from school?", I can't wait til' I'm grown to get away from you", "you are so mean." Oh! and my personal favorite, "You treat me like a slave." The list of statements goes on and on, but I don't want to end up with carpal tunnel. (did I spell/say that right?).

Now to the good part when you find out how she likes to be disciplined.  When my 13 year old bundle of joy ("sour puss") is at her dad's, she is constantly communicating with me either by phone, facebook, or text, almost the entire time she is away. That's Right!!! You read correctly, she is always in contact with her mean, slave driving mom, who is ruining her life!! (Hey!! another statement!)

I don't know about you, but that sounds like a person who misses her mom, and misses being away. I say misses being away because, she also asks her father if he could bring her home earlier. Which truly means she likes me giving her chores and being told how to behave.

The girl doesn't even know she likes being disciplined!!!

I tried telling her, but she just doesn't believe me.

When Amber asked why does she have to do chores, I tell her because of the scripture Psalm 90:17.  May the favor of the Lord Our God rest upon us; establish the work of your hands for us- yes the works of our hands. Their is favor from God, when we work with our hands.

When she asks why am I so strict, I tell her because of  the scripture Proverbs 19:18.  Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a party to his death. 

I explained to her if she is a disobedient child, according to God's promise that if you, Honor you mother and father, your days will be long..............................................Exodus 20:12. 

This means if she is a disobedient child even after I have disciplined her, whatever fate God chooses the consequences are hers alone to bare. 

I hope, my daughter understands, but in any case, her actions tells me she likes the way I am raising her!!